Julie Gottman

“And contempt is not only the best predictor of relationship demise, but as John was saying, and I'll fine-tune it a little bit, the number of times a listener hears contempt in a conflict for 15 minutes predicts how many infectious illnesses they're going to have in the next four years.”

“when you look back at the couples who divorced 6 years earlier, their average percent of turning toward their partners' bids for connection was 33%. And the couples who are still married look six years earlier, their average is 86%.”

“the only antidote is to do something to calm your physiology down.”

“because it is sulfuric acid for the immune system.”

“So the prediction is really 94% accurate”